15 MISTAKES WE NEED TO CHANGE TO IMPROVE OUR LIVES AND OUR SOCIETY

1. As a society, many of us profess our faith in words and societal proof but not in our actions and behaviour. We take church and mosque attendance as proof of our faith. Some of our lives do not reflect authentic Christianity or Moslem faith. The decadence in our society is deep, mostly due to inappropriate behaviours, vices, and not taking advantage of God’s grace.

2. Our parenting and educational curricula are focused primarily on formal certifications. We do not emphasize training in knowledge, strategies, and vital life skills for building true success that adds value to society in an impactful way.

3. We fail to see the integrative nature of our beings. We see our spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical beings as separate entities. We do not focus on the interconnectedness of different aspects of our lives.

4. The churches and the mosques preach mostly about spiritual well-being, but many churchgoers and mosque-goers do not have the training on how to live with a positive mindset and attitude. Many are in bondage of negative thoughts which keep them paralysed, and they are not able to fulfill their purpose. They make disempowering decisions and choices which lead to different life challenges. They begin to blame others and refuse to take responsibility for the choices they make. In fact, we have so many spiritual, mental, and emotionally immature individuals—no wonder the high incidence of relationship, marital, health, leadership, and interpersonal challenges in our society.

5. Our leadership challenge is a long-term one. Many politicians may not have acquired leadership skills before going into politics and leadership. It is difficult to offer capable and competent leadership without the requisite tools and skills. Our leaders have to be grateful for their strengths, have the humility to identify and accept their weaknesses, and use God’s grace, Growth Mindset, and Integrative Lifestyle to strive to turn their weaknesses into strengths.

6. Medical doctors are trained mostly for management of chronic diseases. They focus on individual body organs. They do not look at ill-health in the context of each individual’s total social existence. They fail to understand the powerful impact the spirit, mind, nutrition, lifestyle, and environmental factors have on the health of individuals. They usually do not focus on preventive wellness and other effective integrative lifestyle modalities that can fast-track recovery, and so our morbidity and mortality rates keep rising.

7. As a people, we have failed to look at the quality of the food we grow and consume. We use mostly GMO modified seeds and inorganic fertiliser consisting of very few nutrients instead of using organic seeds and organic fertiliser with over 80 nutrients to give us quality food to nourish our bodies. We have failed to address one of the root causes of chronic disease—acidic blood pH, a consequence of consuming mostly cooked food without taking enough water-rich foods like vegetable and fruit juices. We also need to focus on the quality of water we drink. We all need alkaline, mineralized, antioxidant-rich, hydrogen-infused, energy-healing water to make sure our cells, tissues, and organs are maximally hydrated. Government should promote chronic disease prevention and health promotion programs. Our primary health centres should be upgraded to include Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle protocols and programs.

8. Parents, especially mothers, are very eager for their children, mostly daughters, to get married. The children are usually not equipped with relationship skills, so they lack the capacity to build healthy relationships and marriages, hence increasing incidences of marriage challenges, separation, and divorce.

9. We seem to focus more on career development and building businesses for wealth. We do not prioritise the proactive care of our most vital possession—our health—by making healthy life choices. We wait for crisis of chronic diseases before we seek interventions.

10. We seem to focus mostly on external looks. We do not spend time focusing on building inner beauty. Some of us may be beautiful and handsome in the faces but full of negativity, inner disharmony, frustration, and agitation which shows up in our conversations and behaviours. Some of us are greedy, selfish, dishonest, and lack integrity and patriotism. Some of us lack compassion and empathy.

11. As a society, we tend to focus mostly on the symptoms and signs of our societal challenges. We may be aware of critical thinking sustainable solutions, but some of us do not have the determination and discipline to commit to the solutions in a consistent and continuous manner. We are mostly wired for a quick fix. For us to progress as a nation, we must focus on rebuilding our faulty foundation instead of focusing on the leaking roof.

12. As a society, we organise workshops, seminars, and summits. We have the false belief that talking means we are at least doing something. There are so many great ideas wasting away in shelves and not implemented for a better society.

13. We fail to understand that without personal development, we cannot have capable and competent leadership, quality citizenship, and societal development. So many of us are living below the calibres of who we are. Many of us are not using our innate talents to add value to our spheres of influence.

14. Our current leaders have not recognised the importance of encouraging themselves and Nigerian citizens to invest in personal growth like the Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle and other personal development programs. They do not understand that a society is a reflection of the quality of its citizens, so we must focus on a critical thinking sustainable strategic pathway to help Nigerians improve the calibres of who they are, make healthy life choices to achieve vibrant health to keep accomplishing their dreams and aspirations, and acquire other vital life skills to build true success.

MY RECOMMENDATIONS
Parents and teachers should be trained on Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle so they can pass on the knowledge to their children and students.
It should become an integral training in educational institutions, organisations, churches, and mosques.
The Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle Certificate with formal certifications and skills acquisition will make a huge impact in our lives.

THE GROWTH MINDSET AND INTEGRATIVE LIFESTYLE BOOKS ARE:

1. Become an Asset to Your World Through Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle

2. Achieve Vibrant Health Through Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle

3. Root Causes of Relationship and Marital Challenges and Solutions

4. Acquire Stress Coping Skills

These books are resource materials to help in our training program to fast-track the quest for improved leadership, citizenship, and help Nigeria become the Giant of Africa as ordained by God.

BENEFITS

• Using God’s Grace, Growth Mindset, and Integrative Lifestyle we can achieve a healthier citizenship

• Happy relationships and marriages

• Impactful youths

• Impactful leaders

• Conflict resolution skills to reduce our conflict index

• Reduce societal vices

• Improve our creativity, performance, and productivity

• Become a wealthier nation

• Upscale women, men, children, and youth empowerment and impact

• Build more passionate, impactful men, women, youths, and children who will become assets to their world

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Dr. Ifeyinwa Nwakwesi MBBS
Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle Specialist
Executive Chair, Growth Mindset and Integrative Lifestyle Academy
CEO, Healthy Living Services Nig Ltd
Director, Business Development, Fymak Group of Companies
Executive Chair, Women Aligned for Growth (WAG), Women Aligned for Community Impact in Nigeria (WACIN), Enugwu-Ukwu Daughters Community Development Initiative (EDCDI)
Member, Ogbunike Chamber of Commerce and Industry
Executive Coordinator, Late Sir Felix Godson Nwenechukwu & Dame Monica Okoye Foundation for Good Parenting, Healthy Relationships and Conflict Resolution