15 MISTAKES WE NEED TO CHANGE TO IMPROVE OUR LIVES AND OUR SOCIETY

By Dr Ifeyinwa Nwakwesi MBBS

Growth Mindset and Integrative lifestyle The phenomenal woman

As a society many of us profess our faith in words and societal proof but not in our actions and behaviour. We take church and mosque attendance as proof of our faith. Some of our lives do not reflect authentic Christianity or moslem faith. The decandence in our society is deep mostly due to inappropriate behaviours and vices.

Our parenting and educational curriculum are focused primarily on formal certifications. We do not emphasize training in knowledge, stratagies and skills for building true success that add value to the society in an impactful way.

We fail to see the integrative nature of our beings. We see our spiritual, mental, emotional and physical beings as separate entities. We do not focus on the interconnectiveness of different aspects of our lives.

The churches and the mosques preach mostly about spiritual well being but many church goers and mosque goers did not acquire training on how to live with positive mindset and attitude. Many are in bondage of negative thoughts which keep them paralysed and they are not able to furill their purpose. They make disempowerng decisions and choices which lead to different life challenges. They begin to blame others and refuse to take responsibility for the choices they make. In fact we have so many spiritual, mental and emotional immature spouses no wonder the high incidence of marital challenges in our society.

Our leadership challenge is a long term one. Many Politicians may not have acquired leadership skills before going into leadership. It is difficult to offer capable and competent leadseship without the requisite tools and skills. Our leaders have to be humble, identify and accept their weaknesses and use GROWTH MINDSET AND INTEGRATIVE LIFESTYLE to strive to turn their weaknesses into strengths.

Medical doctors are trained mostly for management of chronic diseases. They focus on individual body organs. They do not look at ill-health in the context of each individual’s total social existence. They fail to understand the powerful impact the spirit, mind, nutrition, lifestyle and environmental factors have on the body. They do not focus on preventive wellness and other effective integrative lifestyle modalities that can fastrack recovery and so our morbidity and mortality rates keep rising.

As a people we have failed to look at the quality of the food we grow and consume. We use mostly GMO modified seeds and inorganic fertiliser consisting of very few nutrients instead of using organic seeds and organic fertiliser with over 80 nutrients to give us quality food to nourish our bodies.

Parents especially mothers are very eager for their children mostly daughters to get married. The children are not eqipped with relationship skills so they can have the capacity to build healthy relationships and marriges hence increasing incidences of marriage challenges separation and divorce.

We seem to focus more on career development and building businesses for wealth. We do not prioritise the proactive care of our most vital possession, our Health by making healthy life choices. We wait for crisis of chronic diseases before we seek interventions.

We seem to focus mostly on external looks. We do not spend time to focus on building inner beauty. Some of us may be beautiful and handsome in the faces but full of negativity, inner disharmony, frustration and agitation which shows up in our conversations and behaviours. Some of us are greedy, selfish, dishonest, lack integrity and patriotism. Some of us lack compassion and empathy.

As a society we tend to focus mostly on the symptoms and signs of our societal challenges. We may be aware of critical thinking sustainable solutions but some of us do not have the determination and discipline to commit to the solutions on a consistent and continuous manner. We are mostly wired for quick fix.

As a society, We organise workshops, seminars, summits. We have the false belief that talking means we are at least doing something. There are so many great ideas wasting away in shelves and not implemented for a better society.

We fail to understand that without personal development we cannot have capable and competent leadership, quality citezenship and societal development so many of us are living below the calbers of who we are.

Our current leaders have not recognised the importance of encouraging themselves and Nigerian citezens to invest in personal growth like the Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle and other personal development programs. They miss the huge impact the quality of individuals have on families, communities and societies.

My Recommendations:

I have previously released my perspectives on 11 actions we need to improve our lives and society.

The leadseship, parents, churches mosques, secondary schools, universities organisations and NGOS should encourage men, women and youths to invest in affordable personal development programmes LIKE the HLS – GROWTH MINDSET AND INTEGRATIVE LIFESTYLE BOOKS AND TRAINING PROGRAMS.

These books provide profound knowledge strategies and skills men, women and youths can use to become better versions of themselves and live passionate and impactful lives, acquire leadership skills and become assets to themselves, their families, communities and societies.

From this pool of happy healthy, fulfilled men, women and youths we can become mentors and sponsor the books for those who cannot afford the books.

There is a need to put in place a strategy for social impact to empower vulnerable women and unemployed youths through training in Agro cultivation and digital technology.

These men, women and youths should pool funds together in collaboration with Government to put in place social impact funds to be managed by a pool of credible and competent fund mangers and project managers in order to take care of the vulnerable, hungry, homeless orphans and widows.

I believe that if all of my recommendations are utilized on a continous and consistent basis we will have capable and competent leadership collaborating with improved citezenship to make our society the giant of Africa God has destined it to be.

I hope this message inspires us to begin taking actions that will help us improve our lives, leadership, and societal development by Gods grace.

Dr Ifeyinwa Nwakwesi MBBS

Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle specialist

The phenomenal & impactful woman

Executive chair Growth mindset and integrative lifestyle Acedemy

CEO Healthy Living Services Nig Ltd

Director Fymak Group of Companies

Executive chair Women Aligned for Growth

Executive chair Women Aligned for Community Impact in Nigeria

Executive chair Enugwu-Ukwu Daughters community Development initiative

Member Ogbunike chamber of commerce

Executive cordinator Late sir FGN & Dame Monica Okoye foundation